Love & Logic

Tuesday, October 17, 2000

A three-session class, Becoming A Love And Logic Parent, will be offered Sunday evenings in November from 6 to 9 p.m. at the Storm Lake Middle School.

Presenting the class will be Assistant Storm Lake Middle School Principal Cotton Koch and Middle School Guidance Counselor Kay Anthony. The presentation is patterned after the book, "Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility," by Foster Cline and Jim Fay.

"Three cornerstones of the program," says Anthony, "are shared power, consequences with empathy and maintenance of self-concept. For example, if a daughter comes home with a poor report card, a parent might get angry and threaten punishment. Love and Logic would suggest saying, 'I'll bet you're really sad to receive grades like this. You must feel terrible,' then walk away, and let the child do some of the thinking. Any consequences the parent imposes should follow the "Three R's." That is, they should be reasonable, relevant and respectful."

Since more and more teachers at the middle school are using the "Love and Logic" methods, there has been a downturn in the number of referrals for poor behavior or lack of effort.

"Responsibility is like anything else-it has to be learned through practice. With this win/win approach to parenting, kids win because they learn responsibility and the logic of life by solving their own problems. Parents win because they establish healthy control without resorting to anger, threats, nagging or exhausting power struggles," says Anthony. "It just takes the stress-most of the stress-out of parenting."

Anyone interested in participating in the class is invited to attend an introductory session Monday evening, Oct. 30, from 6:30 to 8 p.m. at the Middle School Band Room. Parents are invited even if they are not able to attend every session. Child care is provided for each session and the only cost is $10 per couple for a work book. Preregistration can be made by calling Community Education at 732-5711.

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