Schroeder's View

Friday, July 20, 2007

From tragedy, a lesson?

I have searched for answers, but have come up with none. I am a true believer in God and the heavens that await us all when our time on earth has come to an end, but I can not fathom why God would take from us a young soul as 21 year old Cody Schubert.

My nephew was in a boat in Okoboji a few weeks ago and for some unknown reason went overboard and drowned. Plain and simple, from what I understand. Was it was his time?

I am told that there is a reason for everything and God has a plan for all. I am normally a patient person but this has me so stumped as to why I can't sit and analyze and find answers to why we as a family are grieving and just why we were chosen to feel such pain and anguish. My sister and her family are simple people.

My sister would give you her last penny and attempt to find yet another if you would need it. She thrives from giving so much of herself just to make others' lives easier. She is a social butterfly and to keep her down would take an act of God.

I guess that act has arrived.

I am not understanding what purpose it serves to crush a good, young family that is so close and can normally find humor in life that only they can understand. That humor has vanished.

Why would he take a young man who hasn't had a chance to really experience life? He hasn't traveled much, hasn't married or started a family, he is barely out of school. What he did accomplish was to give his parents a reason to love him. Cody is a loving, care free soul, who could make a joke out of almost every situation. His mother would scold him and I can hear him say this plain as day, "Oh, Carla" with a chuckle in his voice.

His smile has brightened even the darkest of moments. Cody has so many friends and tried very hard to spread his time evenly with all. I have yet to meet one person that has known Cody that hasn't felt truly blessed to have known him.

My family has known loss before, with the passing of my dad. That was a hurt that I will always carry with me. Losing a parent, I had thought, must be the worst pain that one could experience.

Now I know that I was wrong. One is not to outlive their child. My sister says that this pain is so much worse and is unsure how she is to handle this. We have been told many times throughout this trying time that the pain never subsides, one merely learns to cope.

We have leaned on each other many times throughout our lives but I can't seem to give her the strength that she needs to cope. I am lost as to what to say or do to explain this or comfort them all. The pain that I hear in Carla's voice has saddened me beyond belief. I am not only grieving for the loss of Cody but also for the loss of my sister's spirit.

Is this the lesson? Are we being tested on our strength, our faith? Was it Cody's time so that we as a family can strengthen our bond not only with God but with each other? I need some kind of answers and they aren't there.

I do want to stress one point in all of this though. Cody Daniel Schubert will always be with us. I believe that a person "is" and not "was" even though they are only with us in spirit. He is missed enormously and will never be forgotten. He has given us so much joy and laughter and that may be Cody's legacy. And perhaps the lesson is to not take one moment for granted. Give as much as you take, yet take what you are given and treasure it all.

* Trudy Schroeder is a Pilot-Tribune alum and contributes a weekly column. Reach her in care of info@stormlakepilottribune.com