I’m going to open and close with this very clear and concise statement; get OFF your cell phones!! If we spent as much time with our children and wives as some of us do on our cell phones, we’d all have very strong relationships. It’s alarming to me how much time people are spending on their cell phones these days. Honestly, life is passing us all by whether we like it or not, and if we’re choosing to spend the majority of our free time on our cell phones; the most precious things in life will never be acknowledged.
So, that brings me to a very sore subject. Since we’ve already identified our obsession with our cell phones these days, let’s focus on something that’s been dying for a long time now… chivalry. It’s bad enough that chivalry has been on the downward slope for years now; it’s now faced with extinction. No, it’s not a huge asteroid that’s coming for it; it’s our obsession with our phones and our misinterpretation of modern times.
When men act chivalrous, and accurately portray themselves as gentlemen, it’s rare. That is so hard for me to comprehend, it really is. This is how a man should be, at all times, no matter what. Why is it so important to get our fixes from social media now? How about holding a door open for someone who is injured, pregnant, elderly, or honestly any woman period. I know, I know, you’re checking your Instagram to see how many likes you received from your latest selfie. Oh wait, I know what it is, you only have precious time during your lunch to activate your Tinder account for swiping. Makes total sense now, you’re completely self-absorbed and don’t even know what chivalry even is.
As a man, we should spend countless hours taking care of our children and wives. They’re first, and if you’re doing it right, you’re a distant second. It’s not about being chivalrous to just our wives or girlfriends either, it’s about conducting ourselves as gentlemen at all times. So, next time you’re activating your Tinder account during lunch in search of affection from strangers (most of you are in relationships that do this) maybe you should run across the street in the pouring rain; and deploy your umbrella over the Mom who’s trying to cross the street pushing a stroller. I know, I know, it’s cutting into your emotional cheat time, but maybe this is the action that gets you on the right track.
Let me help the guys out there, maybe, I can save some of you from yourselves. Your lady should be the center of your universe, the woman of your dreams. Try to be complimenting and nice to her friends. A simple “your new haircut looks great” or “congratulations on your new job, my wife told me the great news” demonstrates the kind of attention and kindness that few men show. It’s one thing to be good to your wife; it’s a whole new level to be nice to her friends.
How about embracing style and a personal fashion sense, and not immediately dismissing any man who enjoys those things as “gay”. Leave little notes around for her to find, with simple messages about where you went or simply that you’re thinking of her. When the waiter comes, asking her what she’d like and letting her order first. Bringing her flowers, just because you love her, no need to wait for a special occasion. Send something every now and again to her office. The value of a bouquet of flowers or a box of chocolates received while in the middle of the work day, in front of all her coworkers, is something you can’t put a price on. Stand up for her if she’s being spoken to aggressively, especially by another man. If you are walking down the street and she starts getting harassed, not saying anything is the worst thing you can do.
Here’s the thing, stop looking at these things in terms of “old fashioned” or “outdated, “but realizing that making your partner feel good is something timeless. These little things don’t need to change just because we’re in the 21st century, because, let’s face it; there are some things that our grandparents just did better than us.
So, as promised, I’m closing this with a wake-up call. Get OFF your cell phones!! Stop getting your emotional support from others on your phone, and put the darn thing down at night! Spend time with your wife and kids. You’re being unfaithful to them when you practice this kind of behavior. Get rid of your passcode on your phone, or at least give it to your wife. After all, what are you hiding if you don’t? Chivalry is going to make a comeback, if it’s the last thing I do. So, if any of this applies to you, knock it off. Love your wife, cherish her, and who freaking cares about likes on Facebook or Instagram… I mean really. Let’s be men again, and let’s make our ladies feel like ladies.