I hope everyone out there is utilizing what we’ve talked about in previous weeks. If you’re using my road map correctly, you should have started feeling some empowerment and change in yourself. I took a little longer to release Part 3 for that very reason. I needed you all to let Part 1, and Part 2 linger in your minds for a while. So, with that, let’s wrap this up with Part 3.
When it comes to IQ, the measure of intelligence is capped out around age 16 on average. This means the brain is no longer developing. This is why it’s so crucial that we get involved with our children and the youth in our community. I accomplish this with constant mentoring of not only my three amazing children, but through volunteering as a mentor in the community. They are the future of America, and throwing an IPAD at them and calling it good is not doing them any favors. I get it; these devices can be the best babysitter you’ve ever had. However, that’s where we’re dropping the ball. We need to be engaged with our children every single day. They need to be bored, and when this happens, tell them to be creative. Just by doing that, will allow your children to develop and forge an outside the box kind of brain that we should want them to have.
I had a discussion with my oldest son about video games the other day. Don’t get me wrong, he’s not a typical kid at all. He loves to be outdoors! He possesses the same spirit I had as a child. This as a father warms my heart so much. My daughter and youngest son are the same way. So, when he asked me about why people think video games rot your brain, I was thrilled to give him my insight. I told him that your brain can be wired for excellence. I told him when he plays with his Rubix Cube, it makes me smile. I explained how he was allowing for proper wiring of his brain. It’s very simple really. When you’re stimulating the brain with obstacle blasting exercises, you produce a harness around that wiring in your brain. If your wiring is nice and neat and all harnessed, it paves the way for a smooth and consistent connection. If you’re wasting your time with mindless activities, you lose that harness, and your wiring is scattered all over the place.
This conversation was amazing for one reason, and one reason only, my son looked at me and understood exactly where I was coming from. This is the power of Emotional Intelligence, and all its facets at work. It might seem like bad news when we think of capping our brain development out at age 16. What you need to realize is developing Emotional Intelligence is a lifelong pursuit. So, let’s break that down for everyone.
Self-awareness: I can break down this skill in three very import traits. Emotional self-awareness; being able to recognize our emotions and their effects. Accurate self-assessment; truly knowing and understanding one’s strengths and limits. Self-confidence; having a strong sense of one’s self worth and capabilities. These are the traits that you need to focus on in order to develop the self-awareness skill.
Self-management: Now we’re going to get into deeper waters. This is so important, and can take people a very long time to possess. This is a skill that can be broke down into six different traits. Adaptability; having flexibility in dealing with changing situations or obstacles. Emotional Self-control; inhibiting emotions in service of group or organizational norms. Initiative; proactive, bias toward action. Achievement orientation; striving to do better. Trustworthiness; integrity or consistency with one’s values, emotions, and behavior. Optimism; a positive view of the life and the future. This really spells it out, and should be something will all try to improve on each and every day. The past two skills, self-awareness and self-management make up one superior skill, and that’s personal competence.
Now, let’s shift gears and bring this full circle. These next two skills are really going to test your personal competence. You can’t really take these on without the traits you learned by sharpening your skills in the personal competence arena.
Social awareness: Three very important traits are needed to master this amazing skill. Empathy; understanding others and taking an active interest in their concern. Service orientation; recognizing and meeting customer’s needs. Organizational awareness; perceives political relationships within the organization. These are all game changers, and with this new skill set you’re building, you will soon realize the drive and passion that can come from your efforts.
Relationship Management: This is where we close it out everyone. These last six traits will empower you. This is where I lay it out there, and show you how to truly become the best version of yourself. Inspirational Leadership; inspiring and guiding groups and people. Developing others; helping others to improve performance. Change catalyst; initiating or managing change. Conflict management; resolving disagreements. Influence; getting others to agree with you. Teamwork and Collaboration; building relationships by creating a shared vision and synergy. That my friends, is the foundation for unlocking your true potential.
Now, it’s up to you. I encourage you all to take the leap and change your lives forever. You will find a new sense of empowerment in everything you do. Most important though, spread your mindset to everyone around you, and in your community. You’ll all be high functioning Ferrari’s in no time at all. Last but not least, we all continue to grow each and every day, don’t forget that. Now, get going, become a better version of yourself.