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One Last Moment

Posted Monday, July 23, 2012, at 2:07 PM

Saying goodbye is never easy.

My week started out just as any other...hectic, but when it ended; I was bidding farewell to a man that I truly admired and respected.

I had met my father-in-law shortly after I had started dating his youngest son. Craig and his father had been partners in farming for many years. By partners I mean side by side since Craig was a very young man. The stories of Craig following his dad as he fed cattle, planting and harvesting are many, and each holds a special memory that my husband shall never forget nor regret.

I admire my husband for his strength and his work ethic which he had inherited from his dad not to mention his mother. I have heard many stories regarding the many hours spent in the fields where the jobs were delegated right down to Mom delivering meals. We love looking back at old photos of the days where the two of them did what they loved with the ones that they loved.

Craig has learned much about respect and love just by sitting back and watching as his mother cared for his ailing father. He watched as his mom tirelessly would do what needed to be done to keep her husband at home with her for as long as she could. She enjoyed taking care of Dad and making sure that he had what he needed when he needed it. In the end he watched as his mom helplessly told his dad that it was alright to move on to his eternal place in Heaven. Those are the memories that my husband will hold on to, the strength that both his parents possess is a result of true commitment and honor for each other.

Needless to say, the respect and love that my husband has for his parents in general was evident to the very last moment of his dad's life. To say that I felt privileged to witness such a bond until the very end is an understatement. Life has a way of tossing in a few moments that we all would like to forget, but I honestly think that there are none that Craig would regret. He speaks highly of his parents, actually this man holds no grudge, he hurts and gets sad but he finds solace in someday this too will pass...an attribute that I admire.

No one wishes to say good-bye to their loved ones. If we could just have one more moment... I still wonder that after 22 years following the death of my father. If I had only had one more minute to tell him how much I loved and respected him. So many times we get lost in our own lives that we miss that very moment where we could let that special soul know that they hold a special place in our hearts.

We had shared the final moments of Burnell Arthur Schroeder's life together at his bedside, celebrating not only his birthday, but his love for his family and his faith also. Knowing that he is at peace and working the fields in Heaven are comforting to his family. The Angels have added another to their choir. How glorious to think that we witnessed the miracle of this man that has lived such a full life, as he exited life as we know it and entered in to his eternal home.

I shall never forget the final moments spent with my father-in-law, nor the moments shared with his family. The lessons learned are plenty but the most important lesson is with respect comes love and compassion. May God Bless Burnell's soul and all that he leaves behind.

* Trudy Schroeder is a Pilot-Tribune alum who shares a weekly column abotu family living. Reach the columnist in care of info@stormlakepilottribune.com

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